How often do you set goals for your friendships?

We’ve been taught to aim high when it comes to our careers, our intimate relationships, and even our own personal wellbeing.

Goal setting, as we know, is a powerful technique for pinpointing what you really want, and then going after it with laser-sharp focus — removing any distractions along the way.

But friendships often get overlooked — and we aren’t encouraged to analyze them with the same precision we do in other areas of our lives.

This can a problem because good friendships are crucial to living a happy life.

What we don’t often realize is that friendships are a dynamic evolving concept, and the best kinds of friendships are those that grow with us… although this isn’t always the case.

This means that friends from years past — from college, school, or an old workplace — can sometimes fall out of touch with where you are in your life now, and even negatively impact you.

Setting goals for your friendships makes it easier to see when you’ve outgrown a friend — and whether you should make the difficult decision of keeping them in your life or letting them go.

In the video above, I explain a Harvard study, conducted by Ed Diener, called “The Very Happy People Study.” The researchers were determined to find out exactly what made us happy, and the answer was clear: the strength of our social connections.

The people we choose to keep around us influence our life decisions, from career choices to romantic relationships. They encourage us to follow our dreams, to aim high, and they provide valuable insight when we need guidance and reassurance.

With this in mind, why wouldn’t you prioritize who you let in — and keep in — your inner circle?

Check out this short video to find out why setting goals for friendships can help improve your quality of life, and then join in the conversation about whether or not it’s a good idea to hang onto old friendships, or let them go — so you always surround yourself with people who elevate and inspire you.


Traditional goal-setting is dangerous. Extraordinary By Design unveils a fundamentally new way to think about your life, your friendships, and your personal relationships.

When you look at your goals as tools to get the experiences that make you happy, grow rapidly, connect with others, and contribute to the world — you can then break your life down into 12 distinct areas.

These 12 areas are so interconnected that when one is lacking, it will pull down the others. But when you elevate one, it with elevate your entire life.

This is how you become Extraordinary By Design.

Extraordinary By Design

Do you set goals for your friendships? How do you feel about holding on to old friendships, or letting friends go? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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