“The biggest thing we are doing to our children right now is bashing their ego…” — Vishen Lakhiani
In this 4-minute video, Vishen Lakhiani, founder of Mindvalley, speaks to a powerful omission in our parenting.
He explains why we can never give too much love to a child or encourage too much self-love, and delves into the biggest piece of advice he received from parenting psychologist, Shelly Lefkoe:
No matter what action you take with your child, ask yourself:
What beliefs or models of reality is my child going to take away from this situation or action?
What could be going on in your child’s mind may not be your intention as a parent for your child to think or feel — negative beliefs that may form can become undetected or unresolved, which may spiral into even more traumatic feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem.
But this is what we do, unintentionally, to our kids. We may be sowing the seeds of our children’s lack of self-confidence, self-love, and ultimately, the feeling that they are not enough.
What we can do as parents is to help our children create and nurture self-love. Watch this video to find out how.
And if this talk resonated with you, or if you are seeking to enhance your relationship with your children, check out Marisa Peer’s free course, 5 Days To Unstoppable Self Confidence, to discover the hidden power of self-image and how to continuously improve your self-esteem to be unstoppable.
Marisa Peer suggests that all of us have a child within who never received all the love and appreciation for the qualities that we prized in ourselves that we sought at that age. We can’t go back and fix the past. But we can take responsibility to heal ourselves now by giving ourselves the love and appreciation we once craved.
What parenting hacks or exercises do you do to help nurture your child’s self-esteem and feelings of self-worth? Leave a comment below.